Does it seem like there is battle involving men versus women?
Where have all the real men gone? Where are the feminine women?
Take a look around and what do you see? I can tell you what we don’t see, masculine men! It seems like men are becoming more and more feminine! What is going on?
It is almost as though something is being put in our drinking water to feminize men. In many instances, men are afraid to speak up. Look at how many relationships where the woman is “the boss”.
We are in sad times when men bow down to women in fear of being put in jail or even losing their economic viability. Women seem to know how to work an increasingly perverse family court system and call foul on a man (regardless of whether or not it is true). There are more and more cases, where women are falsely accusing men of abuse out of spite. Hence, the term many men love to use, “All women are crazy”- leading to their question “what level of crazy can you handle!”
It has gotten to a point where people don’t know who to take seriously. When actual abuse is involved, whether male or female, it has become rather difficult to determine who is the abuser. 21st century women have become much more abusive. No one should ever be in an abusive relationship. We would hope anyone ever involved in a relationship which is abusive would leave immediately and seek counseling. By no means, do we support any type of abuse.
There are more and more loveless marriages where people are simply getting by. Women say they want to call the shots yet innately all they want is to be protected. I know many women who have taken on the “Alpha” role in the relationship (including myself in my previous relationship), thereby being with a more “Beta”man. These relationships almost never work out. Why?
Women (for the most part) want security. If we don’t have security, we start searching for it elsewhere. Most women with men who are not strong ultimately lose respect for them. How can anyone be in a relationship with someone they don’t respect? Over time, one or both of the participants in the relationship will give up. Once a woman has lost the emotional connection with her mate the relationship is over.
I remember when I left my ex. I was so frustrated with having to be a “powerful” woman who called the shots. I wanted to be with a man who could take control and be the leader. Many of my powerful single women friends felt the same exact way. We would all be so excited when a man would take control over ordering food for the table and making sure the bill was sorted out. It is almost humorous to think about. We were grown financially independent women and became ecstatic when a man took control over the most simplest acts.
Let’s just admit it. Women are emotional creatures. I would know this. There are simply not many logical women. Women can have logical moments but typically react emotionally. Have you ever known a woman who got mad at their husband and then no longer wanted to give him sex (an emotional decision)? All of a sudden it becomes-don’t touch me-you are the enemy (YOU made me mad-it’s all your fault). Part of being in a relationship is the sexual intimacy. How can a woman expect a man to be a man if she isn’t giving him sexual contact?
Ladies-let’s get real! If you are mad at your man and aren’t giving him sex, you had better know there is a woman waiting to help your honey pick up the pieces by f*c*ing his brains out. There are plenty of woman who crave the challenge of being with a married man in a committed relationship. They will jump at the chance to win him over with their sexual prowess.
Once you’ve found out your husband has cheated on you, anger and disbelief sets in. You can’t believe he would be with another woman. How could he do this to you? Come on, you emotional creature, why are you using sex as a bargaining chip?
Why was “50 Shades of Grey” so popular? It represented the ultimate bedroom fantasy for women. Women want to be dominated. Dominated in the bedroom, dominated at home. Women fantasize about a man taking control. If it weren’t true, then why did so many women buy the book?
Unfortunately, many women take control of the wheel thinking they are better at multi-tasking and will get the job done quicker, better, etc. Ladies-Is this really what you want?
I was with a man for years I did not respect. I felt like I had to call the shots. I was the breadwinner. I was the one who woke up at 4:30 in the morning to make sure everything was taken care of only to be told I made to much noise and was preventing him from sleeping.
I paid all the bills and hated every minute of it. I am now with a man who is the wizard behind the curtain. He gets it all done and puts the bedroom feats of “50 Shades of Grey” to shame. After experiencing both female societal roles, I can honestly say being an alpha woman “doing it all” is not what it’s cracked up to be. There is a breaking point. Hopefully my article might help some of you avoid that breaking point.
As many women will likely point out , it’s not easy to allow a man to lead. They feel they are relinquishing their feminine power. In my experience this not the case. Jay is a very powerful man yet he does not disrespect my opinion nor my innate value. He knows to take over when it is difficult for me to make a logical decision. I have come to realize his decisions are on point. I can lead and will on occasion but know when to acquiesce. I have faith in who he is, knowing he wants what is best for our family. When a man feels the respect and belief of his family, there are no limits to what he will do for them.
I enjoy being a mother, working, and relish my role as a feminine woman. I realize my strong points and continue to work on my weak ones. I prefer to have my man lead me and our family. I know there are times when Jay will need to talk some sense into me. I won’t always be rational. Those are the times I turn to him and ask him for help or simply to hold me.
Ultimately, it comes down to respect. Do you respect your man enough to lead you? Do you respect your man enough to trust his decisions? Do you respect your man to please you sexually? Do you respect your man enough to follow him anywhere?
Ladies, who is the leader in your relationship? Are you allowing your emotions to call the shots?
Is it that difficult to allow your man to lead? If so, then why are you with him?
Love your man. Believe in him. Allow him to be a man. There is a reason why our society is so screwed up.
It starts with each of us at home. Build up your man and create an amazing life together.
BE THE BEST YOU AT ANY AGE!
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Enjoy, and remember to be the BEST YOU at any age.