<NOTE>Today’s post is the first ever article from Joshua Bakuhn. Josh is a successful 30 year old General Manager of a Hyundai dealership in Pennsylvania. He wants to have his own blog one day. He appears to be well on his way.
I could feel my heart racing and my breaths shortening. “Ok Josh, shoulders back, chest out and look determined.” I tried to remind myself. I was waiting to have lunch with my friend Jay Campbell and a few others as we prepared for the first ever S.O.A.R. (Seriously Optimal Anti-Aging Regimen) Seminar and I had arrived to the destination first.
I am never nervous to meet new people because my day job (General Manager of a Hyundai dealership) required me to do that on a daily basis. I was nervous because joining us at the seminar was a former U.S. Navy Seal. I had done some research on this individual and he definitely looked “bad ass”. He was “jacked” as the bros at the gym would say. Tattoo covered arms holding a large rifle was one of the only pics I had seen of Ray Care.
My mind raced with the situations Ray must have faced and the secret missions he would have completed in his line of work as a decorated US Navy SEAL. If there was ever a time to look tough, now was the time. I didn’t want to come across as a typical beta male who didn’t know what it meant to be a “real man”. Finally I hear Jay’s unmistakable voice and I quickly turn around to greet him and his wife Monica. “Josh I’d like you to meet Ray”.
With a grin from ear to ear Ray steps up, smiles, and shakes my hand. Instantly Ray gives off a laid back, fun loving vibe. No cold stare. No emotionless face. No jaws of life handshake. I was looking for someone who was a war hardened killer and instead I’m greeted with this? All my assumptions went out the window with that greeting and instead I began to dissect what it takes to be a real “bad ass.”
I was able to spend three days with Ray and the other brilliant minds who ran the seminar. Future posts will go into detail about everything I took away from that information explosion but I wanted to focus on the navy seal aspect. Ray mentioned the training he would provide for us would be carried out on the beach…at 6am. “I wouldn’t wear your favorite clothes” was his advice.
I instantly pictured how cold the morning would be and how miserable I would feel assuming the ocean would be used as Ray’s torture tool. The interesting part was I could see that Ray too wasn’t looking forward to being cold just as much as I wasn’t. Of course he had been through much worse so how could he even blink at something like this? The light bulb in my head didn’t yet go off. It took a few normal conversations throughout the weekend to see into the true nature of this soldier.
I learned that despite being a Navy SEAL and one of the most highly trained combat soldiers in existence, Ray was still a human just like you and me. He still gets cold. He still gets scared. He still feels fatigued when his body is pushed to new limits. So what separates the average Joe from an elite soldier? The answer…how they respond to innate human struggles.
When we as “normal people” get cold, we quickly seek warmth. When we are tired from a workout, we stop. When we get scared, we run. When Ray and any other Navy Seal feel their “humanness” kick in, they tell it to shut the hell up. They use their mind to tell their body to deal with the low temperatures. They force their body to keep moving when it wants to stop. When they feel fear, they embrace it and charge forward like a bat out of hell.
For the first time I was able to visually see what it takes to conquer any obstacle in life. We all experience fear which I now call being human. Choosing to move forward when fear strikes, that’s what it takes to be a man.
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