Have you ever asked yourself if you have any regrets in your life?
Do you wish you could turn back the clock and change a series of events?
We all have had a moment or moments in our life, we wish could have been different. It could be an embarrassing speech, being arrested, going through a horrible divorce, reacting in a certain way, drinking too much, lying, and so much more!
Regrets often lie with the chances we didn’t take. The conversations we didn’t start. The experiences where we didn’t take a risk.
Think about the regrets of the dying:
Think about those moments for a second, do they create a sadness inside of you. Do you feel tension somewhere in your body?
Holding onto these moments can cause us to relive them, thus creating more stress in our lives. We can be at an event and something can be said or a specific action can be taken which triggers our subconscious to completely unravel. How many times have you heard your friends say, “I just can’t handle this anymore”.
As much as I wish certain events did not occur in my life, I realize my life is a continuous journey filled with learning experiences. There was a time in my younger life where I strived to not make mistakes. I wanted to be the golden child, always making good choices. I didn’t like confrontation and was afraid to do anything wrong. I was the ultimate people pleaser. I realized as I aged, this was unrealistic. I could not beat myself up every time I made a mistake. The harder I tried not to make a mistake, the more I made them.
Life is filled with mistakes (or learning lessons however you decide to view it). I may be in my 40’s however I have LOTS to learn. I honestly believe once each of us are done learning in this lifetime, our life is over. We will never get it all done, we will never stop learning, we will never stop making mistakes. What is a person to do?
The first step is LEARNING from your mistakes!
What is the definition of Insanity? Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. If you regret your previous decision then why the heck would you make the same decision hoping for a different result. Look at your mistake and realize there is a different way. Do it differently.
Realize EVERYTHING happens for a reason.
As horrible as something may seem, realize our perception of the situation plays key in recovery. Perhaps you went through a nasty divorce and you are going through emotional turmoil. Why would you have ever married this loser? Instead of regret, perhaps think about all you learned.
Realize for every negative occurrence in life, there is an equal or greater benefit which can lay beyond the current grievance. When you change the way you look at something, the whole situation can change. No one wants to suffer or go through pain however are you really learning and creating solutions when all is well? NO!
Contrast creates a catalyst for productive change when we invest the time to take a look inward and decide who we will be at any given moment.
Leave the past where it belongs- BEHIND!
When you can truly accept something and release it, you can free yourself of any excess baggage holding you back. Letting go of the past allows you to focus on the now. I can’t tell you how many times I have wished things could have turned out in a different way. The fact is it turned out how it did and nothing I did, no amount of worry I had, could have changed the event. It was up to me to let it go and live my life in the now.
We can all recreate ourselves within a split second. Start with the decision to let go of the past. Start with a clean slate. You can even do this by forgiving. Forgiving is not for the other person, as much as it is more for yourself. Wishing ill on someone else is only creating a poison within.
Make the decision today to forgive (even if it is forgiving yourself), release and live in the present.
Look at your life. Who do you love? Who has significance in your life? Make sure they know. Maybe you can interview them and record it. Capturing moments with your loved ones and truly appreciating them can not be underestimated.
Whatever your age, you can die at any moment. Don’t take people or moments for granted. Material things will come and go but memories will stay with you for a lifetime.
Live your life with passion.
You are only this age on this day once in your life. You don’t ever get time back. Regrets are the result of not being all you are capable of being. Know thyself and be who you decide to be NOW.
Be the BEST YOU EVER!