What is the easiest way to become successful?
Copy what someone else has done who is where you want to be.
Become a Mentor!
What is a mentor? Mentor is defined as, “an experienced or trusted advisor” and ”a wise and trusted counselor or teacher”. A mentor has the experience to guide you to where you want to go.
When I first began my career in real estate, I was filled with questions. I had the desire to be successful however had NO clue on what I was to do. I was the main provider for my family, with 3 young children. I had no options. I wasn’t making any money from any other sources and I had a husband at the time who was not motivated.
I was scared, nervous, clueless and any other negative adjective you can think of. My broker at the time suggested I meet with other successful real estate agents (preferably women) who had children and were more successful than I (which was pretty much anyone at that time).
I hired a professional coaching company to mentor me and even though it helped me, I wanted something more genuine. I asked my broker for suggestions of a mentor. He gave me a few names and I called the one who I felt most comfortable with and asked if they would be my mentor.
Year after year, most people I asked to mentor me were very receptive to the idea. As I grew my business, I began to ask people who I felt more uncomfortable with. I knew I had to get out of my comfort zone. My goal was to meet with them once a month and simply talk about them and their business (what was working, what wasn’t working, how did they do it at the beginning, what were there biggest regrets, what would they do differently now, how did they deal with their kids and business).
What are the most important steps to take when being mentored?
- Be willing to ask questions
- Be willing to work around your mentor’s schedule
- Find someone who you can relate to. (I was a mom who was the breadwinner in the family. I had a husband at the time who resented my determination to succeed. He ridiculed me in front of my kids for working “too hard”. My goal was to find someone who could relate to a scenario similar to my own.)
- Find someone who is where you would like to be in the future.
- Be respectful of your mentor’s time.
- If your mentor doesn’t want to discuss certain items, don’t keep pressing the issue.
- Be a good listener.
- Speak highly of your mentor to others.
- Get your ego out of the way
- Be honest with yourself and your mentor
What can I learn by being mentored?
- Learn from someone else’s mistakes
- Devise a plan to get you to where you want to go
- How to be a good listener
- How to ask good questions
- How to get out of your comfort zone
- Different techniques to help move you forward
- You can develop new friendships and contacts through your mentor
What can I learn by being a mentor?
The best way to learn is to teach someone. As we become more “seasoned” in our field of endeavor, we can lose our luster for our profession. Mentoring someone who is newer in the profession can help you reignite the flame within yourself. Being selfless and truly coming from contribution can help you be a better person. You can make a lasting imprint in your field. Plus, you can get free lunches ðŸ™‚
Finding a mentor is easy. Begin by searching out people. Ask questions to other people in your network about someone you are interested in having as your mentor. Start reaching out to the person. Make yourself known. If this person is very busy and a challenge to meet with then be persistent. Offer to take them to lunch (on their schedule), offer to sit while they get their nails done, meet them for coffee, etc.
Your goal is to be able to sit with them for at least 15 minutes. Make sure your mentor has similar values to your own. If they don’t, after the first meeting let them know you don’t think they would be a good fit. This can be extremely uncomfortable however being honest with yourself and them can save you from a lot of grief.
You don’t have to pay an arm and a leg for a good mentor. My first mentors (aside from the coaching company I hired) were free. We both invested our time. The only thing I paid for was lunch. A few times, I would pick up the phone and call them asking for their opinion/advice. You will find many people enjoy sharing their story with you. People want to feel important (even the successful ones).
I must say I am eternally grateful for every mentor I have had in my life. I continue to learn from people all around me. I hope I can influence others as positively as they have shaped me.
In many ways, this blog is our way of being a mentor to others. Our goal is to help enable others to create their own extraordinary life.
Be The Best YOU at any age!